Relationships

Hello everybody! Before I start I just want to point out that I’m not a professional and any advice given is purley from personal experience.

Now I know that for some people with mental health disorders, it can be hard to be in or maintain a relationship. When I say relationships, I don’t just mean partners, I mean family, friends, anybody who you are close too.

Sometimes, when we are feeling really low, we tend to push the people who care about us away. This can be by isolating yourself from them or even taking your mood swings out on them. Its so easy sometimes to just snap at people when you feel like shit. Trust me, I’m constantly going mad at people for no reason when I feel crap. This can cause you to loose so many people this way and then its horrible because we then blame ourselves. My advice for this is to warn people if your having a bad day. So, if i’m having a bad day, ill tell my boyfriend and whoever else that i’m having a bad day so expect me to be snappy. Another tip for this is to surround yourself with people who will be willing to pick you up on your bad days. Don’t be around people that are going to make you feel worse.

I struggle a lot with my boyfriend and i cause a lot of arguments because of my anxiety and depression. I constantly think that im not good enough, or hes going to find someone better, or that i’m not good enough. This is a constant issue for me in my relationships with anyone as i never feel as though they really care. When really they do, I’m just letting my mind get the better of me. I have lost so many friends through this and its so frustrating. So what I do know, is i just ask them, like if i feel as though I’ve annoyed someone, i will ask them if i have. That way my mind isn’t going into overload wondering. Most the time I’ve never done anything anyway. If your friends,partners or family really care about you and love you, they should understand that we need a bit more reassurance.

We also need to understand that someone without a mental health condition is going to struggle to understand why we feel the way we do, or why were acting a certain way. Its so hard to be on the outside of it all. It can be scary for some people. My boyfriend legit cried for 3 days after I overdosed as he just couldn’t understand why I did it. This made me realise that its hard for them too. We also need to give the people we care about space and time to understand and try and cope with how we feel. Its a lot for someone to take on and I know full well that when I’m having a bad day, I can be a right bitch and I know I’m a lot to deal with. This is why we also need to be understanding that it can take time for people to understand it. It takes both sides to be understanding, caring and loving to build a good relationship or friendship.

I hope you all enjoyed this! Message me on instagram if you have any questions or want some more advice:

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chlo x